How Does Simplified Divorce Work?

Apr 9, 2019 by

Yesterday, I received a distressed call from one of my fraternity brothers from my college days. He told me that he had been having a lot of trouble in his marriage recently and that his wife was considering filing for divorce. He asked for my help because he is too emotional to think straight, and he needs advice. He did not know if he needed a lawyer or not and asked me to look into it for him so that he could focus on saving his marriage instead of figuring out how divorce works. I did some research and came across the website for the Law Office of Andrew A. Bestafka, Esq., which had some very helpful information about divorce proceedings.

The website I found was for a lawyer that specifically practices in the area of simplified divorce, which is a subset of divorce law. In New Jersey, a judge can grant a “simplified” divorce if the two parties to the divorce are able to come to a reasonable agreement about the distribution of assets in the divorce. A simplified divorce is an expedited process that allows you and your spouse to stay out of court as much as possible. I had no idea that this was even an option. There are a few criteria that must be met for a simplified divorce. First, there are no minor children involved, which helps because it eliminates custody, visitation, and child support considerations. Also, both parties must agree that the marriage is ended and cannot be saved. If one party does not agree that divorce is necessary, it will make the process entirely more complex and they might contest issues that should be easily resolved. Finally, both parties must be in agreement about the distribution of marital property, which includes debt. If the partners don’t agree on major assets like house or vehicles, it makes the process much more complicated and adversarial than a simplified divorce.

Even though the divorce may be simplified and expedited, it is still recommended to hire an experienced attorney because even though it is a simplified divorce, there is almost never a truly simple divorce. It’s important to hire an attorney, especially if you are on good terms because it creates a new avenue for the communication about what you want and what you are willing to compromise on. You have an objective third party on your side that is your advocate, and they can communicate your wishes to the other party without the high emotion that can come when two people going through a divorce communicate with each other. You don’t want to give up assets or rights of yours that you really want just to keep the peace and keep your divorce amicable. Additionally, in order to resolve your divorce, you need to create a written agreement that will be presented to the judge in court. This document must be exhaustive and crystal clear with as few ambiguities as possible. Therefore, it’s important to have this document drafted by an attorney that has done this before and will not make the same mistakes a first-timer or an untrained legal writer would make.

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Yachts Are Changing How People Celebrate

Oct 19, 2018 by

We’ve all been at those terribly boring parties where everything is predictable. The music is the same, the food is the same, the location is the same, and the whole event goes exactly like you knew it would from the moment you accepted the invitation.

This can be true for work events between colleagues, business events when trying to get new clients, weddings, anniversaries, and just friendly gatherings. It’s all boring enough to almost make you want to stay home.

Yet, parties don’t have to be that way, and increasingly, people are finding innovative ways to really shake things up.

Take, for instance, the yacht party. Places like Anita Dee in Chicago can now host all manner of get-togethers that are nothing like the parties you’re used to. Now, you’re not in a hotel or specially designated space – you’re cruising around Lake Michigan and down the river through Chicago.

That right there starts things off on a whole different level. It’s hard to get bored when the scenery is constantly changing, with new sights flowing past regularly.

Beyond that, there’s a whole new level of service on a yacht. For an afternoon or an evening, you get top-notch luxury. You can also introduce new entertainment to entertain your guests.

Beyond that, there’s a lot of advantages to being mobile. You can dock anywhere in Chicago and take your party wherever you need it to go. Start near Navy Pier and then end over in Anderson, Indiana at the casinos if you want. Or start and finish in Chicago, but dock near your favorite bar for a nightcap on a great evening.

This kind of flexibility opens up the whole party to a completely different experience every time you go out. You go where you want, bring the kind of food, drink, and entertainment you want, and you make the travel the whole point of getting together.

This kind of out-of-the-box thinking can really liven up even the dullest of corporate gatherings. You have much more to talk about, much more to see, and much more to look forward to. For weddings, it’s even better. You can have the ceremony on the yacht and start the honeymoon as soon as you get off.

The options really just make this a far more interesting way to plan a party.

Hopefully, this is the start of a trend that moves parties away from the safe and predictable to the flexible, adventurous, and diverse.

That way, the next time you come back from a big party, you won’t have the same old dull stories to tell. You’ll have the scenery, the adventure, and the luxury to brag about. And guaranteed, you’ll want to get back out there again soon.

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Surviving Hurricane Harvey

Oct 24, 2017 by

When Hurricane Harvey hit, I was in my apartment with my family, which includes my two parents, both my mother and father-in-law, all three of my children, as well as my children and my sister’s family.  

Together, we decided we could ride out the storm. When the storm knocked out the power, the little ones began to get frightened.  The generator would have kicked on, but the apartment manager kept putting off when he was going to get it fixed.  The last thing we heard on the news was how bad the storm was getting.  

We kept looking out the window, watching the water get higher and higher.  Finally, my sister decided that if we saw help coming, we were going to try and flag it down to help us as well.  

Even though we are on the second floor, the water became high enough for a boat to literally float up to our front door.  As calmly as we could, we managed to fit our whole family into two decent sized watercrafts that were making their way past our apartment complex.  We were only able to take with us what could go in our pockets and on our backs.

Once safely on the boat, I got a call from the lady, whose house I clean, saying that she and her family just had their house flooded.  They live in the area that is not supposed to suffer from the storm, near the reservoirs.  My boss wanted me to come over and help clean up the mess.  I had to deny her request, as there was no way I could get there without the bus, let alone in these conditions.  She was furious at me, more than usual.  

On the next day, after we reached a sheltered on dry land, everyone is thankful to be safe.  

The next day, we received a phone called from our landlord, telling us that, not only will we not be reimbursed for these days that we are unable to stay in our apartment, but we are all being evicted because we are unable to go to work and receive our paycheck for this month.  To make matters even worse, if we do not return to the apartment tomorrow, our belongings will be taken away, to allow for new tenants to enter the apartment, as soon as the water damage is cleaned up.  We will not be able to return home to collect our belongings because we are only here on dryland because of the generosity of others, and we would need to rent a moving truck, which people are not doing right now, to move all of our stuff.  

We’ve been seeking a reservoir claims attorney to help us out of this mess, but the search is slow-going.

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Business Bankruptcy: What are Your Options?

Jun 29, 2017 by

Your business can experience bankruptcy because of many reasons. Maybe the start-up cost is too high for you to get back easily. Maybe the profits are not significant enough to cater to the debts. Maybe the costs of operating the business doesn’t give you much financial leverage.

You may be bankrupt for different reasons, but one fact still remains – you need to solve it now. Below are some of the options you have if your business is in a crucial financial situation.

Filing for bankruptcy

Bankruptcy has always had this negative reputation from business people, but that needs to change. There are instances where bankruptcy is the very thing that will save them from their financial troubles.

There are different kinds of business bankruptcy, including Chapter 7, Chapter 11, and Chapter 12 – each has its own financial strategies and advantages. For example, the website of these Raleigh Chapter 11 bankruptcy attorneys has mentioned that Chapter 11 bankruptcy involves the restructuring of debts. This has various benefits, including protections against creditor harassment, keeping the business afloat during the bankruptcy process, and obtaining loans at favorable rates.

Negotiating with creditors

Chapter 11 bankruptcy is more about higher interest rates and lower payments, and though that is a viable option, it can also be expensive out front or in the long run. Negotiating with creditors without going to the bankruptcy court may be an alternative. You can do this by convincing all your creditors with a sound plan to restructure your business and cash flow, in a way that they will agree to renegotiate your payment plans.

This usually involves feasibilities regarding cutting costs of operations and selling assets that your business can live without. The only drawback here is that you should be convincing enough for all your creditors, because if you fail, the renegotiating may not take place.

Using ABCs

According to the website of the Bradford Law Offices, PLLC, Chapter 7 bankruptcy involves the selling of assets and using the proceeds to pay back the creditors.

However, there is an alternative to this known as the ABC, or the “assignment for the benefit of creditors,” wherein a business will be allowed to sell its assets on its own, unlike a Chapter 7 bankruptcy that may require a trustee to monitor the sale.

The obvious advantage here is that the business can ask for a bigger sale price, because it likely knows the nature of the industry it thrives in and has an idea of current pricing. Letting the business owner – you – handle the sale also makes the process less stressful for creditors, not to mention that the additional control will help you target more specific debts, like those that you may be personally liable to.

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Why You Need Regular Dental Checkups

Apr 29, 2017 by

Why You Need Regular Dental Checkups

Going to the dentist is not particularly exciting, but it may be necessary every six months or so. This is to diagnose any dental problems you currently have, detect upcoming problems, prevent further problems from developing, and maintain your teeth and gums so problems won’t develop in the first place.

If you are thinking about skipping that dental appointment next week, just because you are busy at work or nobody else is going to look after your child, think again, because the risks may be bigger than what you realize.

Buildup of Plaque

No matter how efficient and frequent you brush and floss your teeth, these devices can’t comfortably access certain areas in your mouth, so you are still prone to plaque buildup. Plaque and food combine to create acids that may be harmful for your teeth, resulting into cavities and other dental problems. A regular dentist appointment will ensure that your mouth will not experience a buildup of plaque, and avoid all consequences associated with it.

Teeth Condition

Toothaches are uncomfortable enough to affect your productivity in school or work. However, they are not merely inconveniences, because they may be a sign that something is wrong with your teeth. This is also true on instances where you feel pain whenever your teeth contact with hot or cold products. Usually, the problem is tooth decay, and the worst tooth decays end up with tooth extractions. To know the condition of your teeth and prevent tooth decay, it is best to go to the dentist regularly.

Gum Condition

Gums are often overlooked by ordinary people when it comes to dental health, but they are just as important as teeth. If your gums appear inflamed or if you feel pain in your gums, there might be a problem, such as gingivitis. This may result from the buildup of plaque and bacteria, which may infect the gums and cause pain and bleeding.


Your teeth and smile can make or break your overall look, and they may affect your self-confidence and self-esteem. Getting regular dental appointments mean that your teeth and smile are always at their best. The website of Dental Expressions by Dr. Gary Bram features photos of how healthy teeth and gums can make a difference. This just proves that going to the dentist is not just about health, as it is also about physical appearance.

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